"There are some hurts that you never completely get over. And you think time will diminish their presence and to a degree...it does. But it still hurts, because, well...hurt hurts."
I was really believing in the idea that human being's brain is enough to do everything it wants to. I truly thought so. But here is a question: are we able to get over anything that hurts us? The truth is we can't. Not all... I guess George Micheal has been right when he said "there is no comfort in the truth, pain is all you will find". We all try to get over things. For real, we do. Yet, to a degree...
The story goes on like this. Firstly, we face the pain. Our first reaction might be keen. On the contrary, it might be taciturn though. It's mostly up to the time, person and the problem etc. However, it hurts like hell. Nobody knows, unless we tell. Nobody understands, unless we explain. Nobody realizes, unless we show. Yet, it hurts and it's just us who feels it. Or we rebel, we scream, we cry out loud. In both ways, at the end, we start forgetting (thanks to time!). We move on, go back to the normal, routine life. When we really complete to convince ourselves that we are over it, something happens. A song? Yeah, we might hear a song and it makes us feel like it has never done before... Let reminiscing start! Or we see someone who looks like.... whoever has hurt us before. People sometimes might look like they're twins, right? Maybe just a memory... I mean we can't just control our brains so that we could remember only the things that we like. Surely, memories are the worst part. Like Gwen Stefani says "our memories... they can be inviting; but some are altogether mighty frightening". So true!
Whatever, what I am trying to tell is we just can't escape. Despite of trying hard to forget about things, we all remember them at the end. A song, a photo, a person, a memory.... or it's just us... that reminds us what makes us sad.
Above all, some things are worth to be lived, eventhough they hurt. For instance, love. It's just the ones that we love who can hurt us. For, they are the ones we care about. However, I suppose I am someone who agrees with Incubus about something and here it's "love hurts but sometimes it's a good hurt and it feels like I am alive" . On the other hand, it's true. We wouldn't have been aware of the value of life and happy moments, if we hadn't had pain ever. So, being hurt is a sign that shows that we are alive? (: Anyhow, just "tell that someone that you love just what you are thinking of, if tomorrow never comes" like I am quite sure Garth Brooks does.
Also, about telling people what we are thinking of... I have always appreciated people who are open to anyone. I don't mean honesty or sincerity. It's just we should always have it on our minds that life's short. What we have today or who we have today might not exist tomorrow. It's not that hard to pour the words "you mean a lot to me", "I really care about you", or "I love you". I wonder how many people have missed the chance to say these words to another and have regretted afterwards. Surely, a lot. Let's move on before it's too late. Morevover, if this moment isn't too late for you, you are among the lucky ones(:
However, I guess there are times that words can't heal things. It's so weird that sometimes those meaningful words mean nothing; because they are poured from a one's mouth that has really hurt before so that your life has been affected badly. It's so weird that someone that you loved like hell before can later make you pray for not remembering anything about them. It's so weird that someone you have shared a lot is now nowhere in your life. Like it is said in one of the Avenged Sevefold's songs, they might after sing like "..cause I'm lonely and I'm tired, I'm missing you again", but it means nothing to us. Because we probably wouldn't feel any remorse by then, while they deal with theirs... Maybe for we have already walked away...
By the way, walking away? It's a must, if someone really hurts on purpose. What if someone really needs you to walk away... I don't know if it's right or wrong to stay, when we are told to walk away directly or indirectly...Still, if someone wishes someone to leave, to stay will be ridiculous. There might be problems, we might try to solve... However, if someone tells that it's for nothing to try... Why staying more? There are of course stereotype words, too. If we hear someone telling us they just don't want to hurt anymore, they can't change the way they are, they are not good for us or they don't deserve us. There is one thing they want to tell and it is "walk away"... If someone doesn't want to hurt you anymore, then they will not again by healing the old wounds and not causing any more. If someone really doesn't want to lose you, they'll change for you. If someone thinks that they aren't good enough for you, then they will try to be good for you and to deserve you. It has always been like this. So if you hear someone wanting to walk away because of those reasons, let them do that. An old song of Mattafix that I indeed like: "you should know I had to let you go. Now and forever more, I am out of reach".
It's life. Money, people, love... We gain, we lose. Like a vicious circle. Yet, don't forget that in the end you are all you have and that has to be enough, there is no other way.
Let me end this writing with really some meaningful lyrics of John Legend:
"...Everybody knows that nobody really knows how to make it work or how to ease the hurt. We have heard it all before, everybody knows just how to make it right"...
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